thoughts on one-sided love

[Astraia]

What are your thoughts on one-sided love?

Personally, i'm in love with someone who doesn't love me back, he knows that for a fact, but it's okay with me. Geez.

I know there are tons of people who are martyrs like me, so i'd like to hear your thoughts and experiences on one sided love...

[Yue]

One sided Love brings to nothing... Only sadness.
If you really want to be happy then forget him.
Is hard but is better to not think about it. If you
you think about it is only makes you unhappy.

[Thunder]

Im ok with it if I'm the loved one.

[Astraia]

One sided Love brings to nothing... Only sadness.
If you really want to be happy then forget him.
Is hard but is better to not think about it. If you
you think about it is only makes you unhappy.

yeah, you're right. i'll try. thanks. =)

[Yue]

yeah, you're right. i'll try. thanks. =)


No prob x3
Someday you will find someone who loved you and you loved him back, is much better. So keep smiling:)

[Ixion]

To me it makes everything seem so pointless so I try not to attach myself any further to a person!

[Heaven's Cloud]

What are your thoughts on one-sided love?

Personally, i'm in love with someone who doesn't love me back, he knows that for a fact, but it's okay with me. Geez.

I know there are tons of people who are martyrs like me, so i'd like to hear your thoughts and experiences on one sided love...


Do ya hang around with him or is it just some guy you don't know personally?? If you do know him either cut communication with him till you get over him, if you don't and he get's with someone else it will really hurt bad, like really bad.

[Neal]

Pretty pathetic. If someone doesn't love you back then move on. :wtf:

[pupucachi]

The only one I fall in love with is myself :awesome:
Nvm that. Try to replace him with smt/smb you really like to do/spend time with. At first it'll be difficult, but then you'll know that's a wise decision :)

[Hae]

Pretty pathetic. If someone doesn't love you back then move on. :wtf:
I hate it when people say that. You can't get rid of your feelings just like that, and move on, well...I guess it depends on a person.
I've been going through something like this and it fucking hurts still.
Ugh.

[Shiranui Reborn]

It's pointless, move on asap.

[Moklin]

I was loved before but i didnt love back, now im the one who loves (another person) but i dont know if that person loves me. I cant ask or say what i fell, i really cant, its really a hard situation. I hope i could go back in time to threat the one who loved me in a diferent way. I didnt understand at that time. There is a lot of pain.

It really hurts, strongest pain i ever had but at the same time i feel more powerfull. Im learning a lot about myself and the world, you just cant let this situation screw your life.
Talk to your friends and dont worry to much, this situations are perfectly normal, in the end everything will be allright. Your friends and family will be your best support.

[kingmickey]

yup its pay back for me too i was engaged and we were together for 4 years and lil after the engagement i feel out of love and broke off the engagement now am in love truly but she saids she loves me but i getting that deeling that she dosent so yea it sucks

[Fojta]

I was madly in love with this girl for maybe two years. She knew about that and she wanted to stop seeing each other, which I couldn´t allow. So, I was hiding my feelings for her (for that two years) and I was hurting myself that way but it was still better for me than to be absolutely without her. Now...we are best friends.
I know that nothing is going to happen between us and I don´t care anymore. She is still special for me (and always will be) but I don´t love her anymore. Give it time, it will pass (espetially if you start dating someone or stop seeing that person). I know it is hard but I know that you will make it:)

[Stella Nox Fleuret]

Screw love.
Have fun.

[Fenryr]

I hate it when people say that. You can't get rid of your feelings just like that, and move on, well...I guess it depends on a person.
I've been going through something like this and it fucking hurts still.
Ugh.

Depends on your age. If you're in your late twenties you're going to want a longer relationship. But being young is about having fun. If you dawdle on one person for ever you're wasting the fun. Besides, best way to get over a girl is to get on top of one. Same goes for guys.

[kingmickey]

i feel you kinda i get on top and then i think about the other but sometimes you have to just say whatever i still love them and if they come back i will have open arms but you have to move on like fenyrar said on top

[Bun]

You're a weak person if you find it that hard to get over a silly chemical release.

[Saki Liu]

You're a weak person if you find it that hard to get over a silly chemical release.

I would agree, but I like having the thought of being real. :lol:

[Bun]

What exactly is "real" anyway? Humans are dispensable. You'll end up a part of the Earth again anyway in a few measly decades.

[Hitoshura]

Maybe youre not doing something right.... :wtf:

[Bun]

Who says I want to be doing anything right? Yuck, love.

[Ivan]

You're a weak person if you find it that hard to get over a silly chemical release.

.......i second the motion.

[Fojta]

.......i second the motion.
Well, it may suggest that you have never been in love (in real love-not only some hots for a chick or something similar) because then you would know that even if it is some stupid chemical reaction, that it´s irracional, etc. you cannot do anything about that and you simply cannot resist those feelings.

[Whiplash]

What are your thoughts on one-sided love?

Personally, i'm in love with someone who doesn't love me back, he knows that for a fact, but it's okay with me. Geez.

I know there are tons of people who are martyrs like me, so i'd like to hear your thoughts and experiences on one sided love...

If I were you, I'd get over him before you know there are tons of people who are stalkers like you.

[Thunder]

^ I feel vaguely insulted D;

[SUPER JAM]

To me it makes everything seem so pointless so I try not to attach myself any further to a person!

Trying to find the best equation emotionalessly??? LOL

I never one-side love anyone , because I know they don't love me back , so yeah just go for someone who loves you and you love him. It's equal ^^.

But another option is 'you can be daredevil' , just try , require courage , tell him straightly "I like you". No need to hide. And let see the result.

[Neal]

Well, it may suggest that you have never been in love (in real love-not only some hots for a chick or something similar) because then you would know that even if it is some stupid chemical reaction, that it´s irracional, etc. you cannot do anything about that and you simply cannot resist those feelings.
I agree. Anyone that seriously thinks that love is "just a chemical reaction" or whatever clearly has no idea.

Of course you cant just stop having feelings, what I meant was leave them alone and do something else with your time. Fair enough to be upset for a while but if you let it consume your live you'll turn into a creepy cat lady :wtf:

[Fojta]

I agree. Anyone that seriously thinks that love is "just a chemical reaction" or whatever clearly has no idea.

Of course you cant just stop having feelings, what I meant was leave them alone and do something else with your time. Fair enough to be upset for a while but if you let it consume your live you'll turn into a creepy cat lady :wtf:
Creepy cat lady, haha...but you´re right. For me, it was very difficult. I almost get transferred to another university and start completely new life because of this girl (and this is very difficult). To stop loving someone is really, really hard but sometimes there is no other way...if that person simply doesn´t want to be with you, you have no choice.

[Devegas]

see this is why you need a best friend because they do anything and everything help you get over it

[Devegas]

and trust me it is better to have loved and lost and found another love than to have ended up miserable with the same one-sided lover who don't love you

[Bun]

I think it's just easier for me to get over what people call "love". In fact, I don't think I've ever felt "love" for anyone; except for Kenny. :wtf: I LOVE YOU~

[namyrb]

I went through this my first 2 years in high school. It goes away naturally. I always thought that trying to fight it mean having to lie to yourself. Instead of doing that, it's much easier to start talking to other people. Sure you'll still be attracted to, or infatuated with the other person, but it definitely helps to know that there are others out there that you'll find to be much better people.

And about the whole chemical reaction thing... tell that to an addict. It's one of things where, if you haven't ever experienced it, you'll never know the feeling of not being able to let go...

[Bun]

Feh! I don't think love truly exists. And to be honest, we don't really exist either. This is all a dreeeaaammm~

[namyrb]

Feh! I don't think love truly exists. And to be honest, we don't really exist either. This is all a dreeeaaammm~

If you believe this is a dream then you should read up on Descartes (pronounced Day-cart with the emphasis on the car). He's the most famous for all the dream theories which were basically stolen by then Wachowski bros to make the Matrix...

[Bun]

Internets r seri0s business.

[Kitmitsu]

(pronounced Day-cart with the emphasis on the car)

Patronising son of a bitch :aldo:.

[Saki Liu]

Feh! I don't think love truly exists. And to be honest, we don't really exist either. This is all a dreeeaaammm~

Ohhhhh, I wish.

[Little Miss Scarlett]

I think it's silly, self-destructive, and a waste of life. You can make yourself think what you wish if you try hard enough, and get over whatever you want, it's just a matter of self-discipline.

[Shiranui Reborn]

Feh! I don't think love truly exists. And to be honest, we don't really exist either. This is all a dreeeaaammm~

too philosophical :aldo:

[Bun]

I think it's silly, self-destructive, and a waste of life. You can make yourself think what you wish if you try hard enough, and get over whatever you want, it's just a matter of self-discipline.

Remember that word, son. DISCIPLINE.

[Astraia]

oooohh, very well said.

[SUPER JAM]

I agree. Anyone that seriously thinks that love is "just a chemical reaction" or whatever clearly has no idea.

Of course you cant just stop having feelings, what I meant was leave them alone and do something else with your time. Fair enough to be upset for a while but if you let it consume your live you'll turn into a creepy cat lady :wtf:

Yeah! I agree with you , go to start some projects to keep yourself busy , then you will not think about that nonsense thing.

But I still believe "Love conquers everything"........the power of love~~~~~

Maybe indeed you not match to him ..... it's the destiny.

[Misschoco]

You're a weak person if you find it that hard to get over a silly chemical release.
Did your parents beat you as a child :wtf:


Pftt experianced this shit before. It feels as if the person on the recieving end is being contempt with your feelings when its most possibly the fact they cant generate any feelings for you. Real life isnt the movies where some dude gets cancer and the girl who has no feelings for this dude with his unrequited love suddenly wants to be by his side till his end etc.
FUUUU- sound like a poet :cathryn:

[admh]

me & my girl have a love/hate relationship, i love her & she hates me

[Devegas]

if you're in love with someone or think you love someone who isn't in love with you, should not try to force or otherwise leave it alone because it will either come in time FROM SOMEONE ELSE. you do or say something that will give you closure even if it means telling the person how to get it off of your mind ( just be sure that that person is your friend or cool with you and ya'll are alone when you do this and the person isn't an asshole that will tell your bizness or else YOU'RE SCREWED). there should be no reason for you to convince yourself or your crush that it's for real because it won't be doing that. are you in high school? cuz if you r then you'll get over it and find the one you're looking for.

[admh]

love is the drug, but dont get addicted

[seto]

Never been in such a relationship so not qualified to give advice, but you need to be the one that makes the decision in the end. Whatever you choose you need to accept the consequences. If you do decide to leave him, having friends there for you would really help you get through it. Sure it's gonna hurt, but you'll probably appreciate your next relationship more, so something to look forward to. :)

[Misschoco]

me & my girl have a love/hate relationship, i love her & she hates me
That doesnt make sense.

[Yue]

me & my girl have a love/hate relationship, i love her & she hates me

That' s crapy but think about what you do to her, maybe you hurt her somehow. But I rate you to give up on her one sided love brings to nothing believe me, it brings only sadness. <_<

[admh]

That doesnt make sense.
its a quote from a morcambe & wise sketch, meant to lighten this thread up a bit

[doeman]

Personally, i'm in love with someone who doesn't love me back, he knows that for a fact, but it's okay with me.
lol. just lol.

[Devegas]

i just say drop that and move on to someone else. someone very hot and that'll make you happier in all areas that need fulfillment :)

[Teggles]

It's always one-sided love for me. I just try really hard to get over them, and I usually do. Move on. It's their loss.

[Astraia]

...it's been a while since i posted this thread and i realized that my first post was..uhh..stupid. :aldo:

...one-sided love sucks. it's sad. I know falling in love with someone cannot be avoided, but eventually, i realized that unrecquited love becomes pointless in the long run. And yes, i gave up just a few days ago, after being in love with a certain guy for four years. I find myself laughing at my past cheesyness towards that person. i'm glad that i gave up. i guess being stupid is a part of falling in love, though...

Umm...i guess it's not bad to like someone who doesn't show any interest in you, but just don't fall so hard.......so that things will be safe. I dunno, just my own opinion and realizations......

[Sundance Kid]

I think it's just easier for me to get over what people call "love". In fact, I don't think I've ever felt "love" for anyone; except for Kenny. :wtf: I LOVE YOU~
hahaha I just read this. I love you to.

:}

*ahem*
Anyways stellar glad you're seeing the light, don't let this bs consume you, there's pleanty of fish in the sea. I know that's a cheesy line but hey it's true. Fact of the matter is you just gotta go huntin, you don't know EVERYONE on Mother Earth.

[Astraia]

(aww, you guys are so sweet!) :)

...anyway, thank you very much..umm, Kenny, right? I'm getting ready with my hunting gear btw... :aldo:

[Sundance Kid]

(aww, you guys are so sweet!) :)

...anyway, thank you very much..umm, Kenny, right? I'm getting ready with my hunting gear btw... :aldo:
haha yes Kenny.

Don't fall in love to quickly though my dear.

[Aurelia]

hahaha I just read this. I love you to.

:}

*ahem*
Anyways stellar glad you're seeing the light, don't let this bs consume you, there's pleanty of fish in the sea. I know that's a cheesy line but hey it's true. Fact of the matter is you just gotta go huntin, you don't know EVERYONE on Mother Earth.



I personally like that saying. XD I guess that makes me cheesy, but it does give people consolation because it's true!

I'm glad you got things settled stellar. Enjoy your single life and I'm sure you'll find someone that truly loves you. =3

[Astraia]

I personally like that saying. XD I guess that makes me cheesy, but it does give people consolation because it's true!

I'm glad you got things settled stellar. Enjoy your single life and I'm sure you'll find someone that truly loves you. =3

aww, thank you so much, aurelia. *HUG*

i believe in karma, so i guess most of us 'martyrs' will be happy with someone deserving someday. :)

[harpdevil]

What are your thoughts on one-sided love?

Personally, i'm in love with someone who doesn't love me back, he knows that for a fact, but it's okay with me. Geez.

I know there are tons of people who are martyrs like me, so i'd like to hear your thoughts and experiences on one sided love...

I agree with Yue, but the other thing of course is if you are focussing your love and attention on this person, then you are not looking anywhere else for someone who could love you back. I'm not going to tell you to move on because no-one can just move on. Just know that you deserve to be loved, you will be, and when that happens I'm sure you will find it easy to let go of this person.

[Alazais]

My opinion on it, it sucks, big style.

Love is blind, you don't choose it, it chooses you and takes you down a rapid current that involves fantastic adventures and rocky storms, from the highest of heights to the deepest lows of feelings there is nothing quite like it. You can try to fight against it in the hopes of breaking free but all you end up doing is going down a different path.

Anybody who thinks differently has never truly been in love, in my opinion.

I'm currently in this position, yet at the same time I've never been happier, though I'd be happier still would she say yes. I've got hope, I'll wait.

[Devegas]

i think the reason why is because you got your feelings out there rather than holding it in. it makes things easier so you don't have any kind of weight on your shoulders

[Ixion]

You're a weak person if you find it that hard to get over a silly chemical release.

AHAHAHAHAHAHA, yeah your pretty right on that one. Man nature is so tough on us humans.:lol::lol:

[SUPER JAM]

Men is sex come first. Women is love come first.

[Astraia]

^lol


girls are usually the ones on the losing end when they get to fall in love first.

[doeman]

what IS love?

[Alazais]

Men is sex come first. Women is love come first.


Thats not always true, but if you had to generalise then yeah I'd agree.
For me though, as a guy, sex is meaningless without love *shrugs*, everybody is different though.

And doeman, there's a million different answers to that question depending on how you look at it and who you're asking.

At it's most simple level it's a chemical release that puts you on a high, a pleasnt feeling, actually the same chemical reaction happens when you eat chocolate. At the more complicated end of the scale it's... well I suppose thats different to everybody.

[doeman]

i wasn't being serious, but ok.

i love chocolate.

[1nOnly]

Men is sex come first. Women is love come first.


i was in love with a girl for like 2 months without her wanting to hook up, and when i finally "got" her she invite me to some romantic place with a jacuzzi and lots of drinks:whistle: and she was just like you before that, talking about men only wants to have sex etc.

For me though, as a guy, sex is meaningless without love *shrugs*, everybody is different though.the only thing meaningless about sex without love is after you've had meaningless sex (kinda ironic)

[Alazais]

i wasn't being serious, but ok.

i love chocolate.

Heh, who doesn't. Chocolate is pure awesome.

[Heaven's Cloud]

Was in love preety much for about 3 month's with my best friend, we nearly got with each other but she didn't want to lose her best friend if we ever broke up, that night I couldn't sleep and I texted her saying I loved her, she didn't text back and I'm assuming cause she's very shy. Anyway we didn't see each other for like 3 week's and then she got with some guy that all my other friend's don't like, I didn't even know him , wuz heartbroken lol.
Don't even talk to her nemore though we never really did after that, it was about a year ago and she was with your man for about 3 week's.
On topic:::::::::::Love before sex for me, except when i'm drunk, I just don't give a shit

[Ixion]

Heh, who doesn't. Chocolate is pure awesome.

I don't.......:|

[Eighty88Eight]

Why wait for the death knell, TC? just get it over with. In exchange for my counsel, I need someone to tell me how to properly break up with a woman. For years I just stopped answering their calls until I get the obligatory e-mail saying they were leaving ME... Rather cruel on my part I suppose. And this girl im seeing is fucking nuts. My sister called me the other day and she picked up my cell (i won't elaborate the context) and she flipped out thinking it was another woman calling. This was in Belmora Pizzeria at lunch hour in Manhattan, mind you.:ohmy:

[Alazais]

I don't.......:|

:blink: ... nope I honestly don't know what to say to that lol.

Maybe it's just the chocolate where you live, it varies wildly, I know American chocolate isn't something I'd touch with a barge poll let alone my mouth :P

[SUPER JAM]

I don't.......:|


Why is chocolate better than sex?
1. You can GET chocolate.

2. Chocolate satisfies even when it has gone soft.

3. You can safely have chocolate while you are driving.

4. You can make chocolate last as long as you want it to.

5. You can have chocolate even in front of your mother.

6. If you bite the nuts too hard the chocolate won't mind.

7. Two people of the same sex can have chocolate without being called nasty names.

8. The word "commitment" doesn't scare off chocolate.

9. You can have chocolate on your workbench/desk during working hours without upsetting your co-workers.

10. You can ask a stranger for chocolate without getting your face slapped.

11. With chocolate there's no need to fake it.

12. Chocolate doesn't make you pregnant.

13. You can have chocolate at any time of the month.

14. Good chocolate is easy to find.

15. You can have as many kinds of chocolate as you can handle.

16. You are never too young or too old for chocolate.

17. When you have chocolate it does not keep your neighbors awake.

18. With chocolate size doesn't matter.

[Ren XIII]

Why wait for the death knell, TC? just get it over with. In exchange for my counsel, I need someone to tell me how to properly break up with a woman. For years I just stopped answering their calls until I get the obligatory e-mail saying they were leaving ME... Rather cruel on my part I suppose. And this girl im seeing is fucking nuts. My sister called me the other day and she picked up my cell (i won't elaborate the context) and she flipped out thinking it was another woman calling. This was in Belmora Pizzeria at lunch hour in Manhattan, mind you.:ohmy:


Kill her and get rid off the body. :cookie:



Oh and there is no such thing as a proper breakup if one of the parties is still interested in said relationship , I just do what you do , stop giving them attention until they also lose interest... and if they don't I just kill them and get rid off the body

[Kätharina]

Why is chocolate better than sex?
1. You can GET chocolate.

2. Chocolate satisfies even when it has gone soft.

3. You can safely have chocolate while you are driving.

4. You can make chocolate last as long as you want it to.

5. You can have chocolate even in front of your mother.

6. If you bite the nuts too hard the chocolate won't mind.

7. Two people of the same sex can have chocolate without being called nasty names.

8. The word "commitment" doesn't scare off chocolate.

9. You can have chocolate on your workbench/desk during working hours without upsetting your co-workers.

10. You can ask a stranger for chocolate without getting your face slapped.

11. With chocolate there's no need to fake it.

12. Chocolate doesn't make you pregnant.

13. You can have chocolate at any time of the month.

14. Good chocolate is easy to find.

15. You can have as many kinds of chocolate as you can handle.

16. You are never too young or too old for chocolate.

17. When you have chocolate it does not keep your neighbors awake.

18. With chocolate size doesn't matter.




Sex burns calories.
Chocolate adds calories.

:cathryn:

[Astraia]

^i'd go for sex, then. lol

[Pixel]

Meh, its whatever I guess. In my opinion the person who loves the other is clinging to the hope that one day the persons feelings will change for them and they can hook up. I personally don't think it can be good for you either, you could be waiting for ages, and nothing could happen.

As for meaningless sex, rofl, its always been meaningless. The feelings and emotions you feel about your love, wife, whatever is what makes it special. :wtf:

EDIT: I went back and read all of the posts! :aldo:

I actually like how Bun is approaching this, the only thing love really is is a chemical release you get when your around that person. And if you are attached to them, obviously you got hooked to your own chems; and your mind is a lightweight. Same goes for druggies. Some find it harder to get clean because they cannot control themselves due to a weak ass brain (although, I suppose the drugs will do that, haha; but not with smoking for instance).

Back to the topic, if love is only a chem. release in the brain, and you love someone who is not loving you back, your beating yourself up. The longer you think they will come around the harder your making it to get over them.

[rutea7]

Why wait for the death knell, TC? just get it over with. In exchange for my counsel, I need someone to tell me how to properly break up with a woman. For years I just stopped answering their calls until I get the obligatory e-mail saying they were leaving ME... Rather cruel on my part I suppose. And this girl im seeing is fucking nuts. My sister called me the other day and she picked up my cell (i won't elaborate the context) and she flipped out thinking it was another woman calling. This was in Belmora Pizzeria at lunch hour in Manhattan, mind you.:ohmy:

that's a childish way to break up, ppl should talk. with that one though you might wanna do it in a public place where she cant kill you and get away with it ;)

some girls have deep scars that never healed so they cant trust other man. ppl need to heal BEFORE they get involved with someone else, otherwise it won't work

thoughts on one sided love... dont feed it, it will die from starvation. it might take a while though, for me at least, i always fall hard when falling in love. good thing it's really rare.

[Ascending Adonis]

Just end it, as quickly & as painlessly as possible, and focus your mind on something else as best you can. Don't fall prey to your own feelings; nothing is worse than living life in expectation.

[Ixion]

^i'd go for sex, then. lol

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL, fuuny. Anyways I do live in America and detest the chocolate here. But everyone still likes to force the stuff on me but I reject it. Talk about one-sided love for the chocolate. Now STRAWBERRIES, mmmmmmmmm that's the stuff. Basically replace everything that's beneficial for chocolate with the word strawberry.

[SUPER JAM]

Well , I must admit that I'm one-sided love with my favorite singer from my favorite popular boyband. Honestly , one-sided love can make me feel a bit horny about the person I one-sided love with.

Sex without love is like car without fuel...........they can't go forward.