Anger

[Maiya]

I'm sure that everyone has had a run in with anger at least once in their life. I was just sort of wondering why we really get angry in the first place. Bad run in with it this morning with myself and my little brothers. It got pretty bad with me and the older of my two little brothers.

So, I'm kind of wondering if getting angry is a natural thing? How far can getting angry go before it crosses the line? When it turns from verbal to threatening to physical. I'm talking about pure anger here. The kind where you seriously would start hitting the person and beating them up. Even if it was someone you cared about.

We get angry for various reasons, but I don't understand how we can really deal with it. Sure squeeze the stress reliever or whatever, but I don't think that helps. So, my main questions: Who here has actually gotten 'that' angry? Is it okay and natural? How do you deal with it? Where does it really come from? Is it built up feelings overtime or something?

[Bun]

Of course it's a natural thing, more natural for some than others. For me, I'd say I'm a rather calm person most of the time, but I've got a pretty bad temper for being as calm as I am. When I do get mad, I get physical (ie. punching, shouting, throwing whatever might be around}. The anger even effects me physically to some degree; I'll start shaking from having to restrain myself from doing anything stupid (maybe something that will get me in trouble with John Law).

So to answer your questions: Yes, I've gotten that angry. I think it's okay at times if you release it in a healthy manner (being angry isn't a bad thing, but if you take it out on the wrong person/thing at the wrong time it very well could be). I try to take a moment to physically calm myself; close my eyes and focus on taking slow, deep breaths. If that doesn't work, well, then I'll probably punch whatever is around me. I'm able to control it most of the time seeing as how I've never really had too many problems; however, people know that I do have quite the temper and recognize that it can be frightening at times.

As for where it comes from...eh, it's a mental/physical thing. When something bad happens, you generally tend to relate it to that bad memory and the mind makes the connection sending a response to the body. The body then acknowledges that connection and releases adrenaline, which is where you get the high blood pressure, a sudden fluctuation in temperature, etc... While that's the quite obvious and technical explanation, I don't know how else to describe what you're asking.

Whether or not it builds over time really depends on the situation. Sometimes, for example, in my case it will be a matter of being set off right at the moment; I'm not necessarily mad or anything before that, but something soon happens that will make me angry. Or sometimes I could be holding something in and it just becomes too much to take.

[Lustre]

My Father and I never get along, and I detest him so strongly at times. A lot of the time I really wanna hurt him. Best way I find of relieving this anger is to punch walls or anything hard enough to hurt my hand. If i'm feeling pain, it's something other than anger... and I do so hate feeling angry. In the end, it's just another emotion in life, like love. How can you explain that?

I think everyone needs a way to vent their anger, else it can just build up till you explode on someone you love *giggles at sexual innuendo*. Sports obviously help this, and I find if i've been working out on a particular day, I get less angry at people.

[-Tidus4]

Well i've had so many issues with anger in my life, i'm not going to rant on about them all simply because it's long and boring, but i will say if you don't find a solution any time soon, you will get use to it and you will start getting angry over every little thing, which will ruin your life.
First it started with not talking with someone, then i stuck around and threw couple of swear words and next i see myself getting angry at everyone and everything. Thanks to all the long walks at night and the long thinking i managed to realise i was turning into a beast, so i gradually began to find solutions such as being able to recognise when my temper is building and trying to look at the situation from a different view. tbh it's still very hard to control and i still lose it over some things but that's life there are alot of things you have to live with, but i tel you do not let this go by walking away, don't take the easy option.

I sound so pathetic... :]

[Tidus]

I'm a pretty cool and laid back guy.....but I've always had a pretty short temper. I train MMA (Had a couple of amateur fights) and hope to start fighting professionally pretty soon. That gives me an outlet. I guess you can say my anger is more of a controlled rage from my past. Sometimes I do get extremely angry about stupid things. I'm always working out and training.....when I hear about someone else doing the same (who's my weight and alot of times even way above my weight), I want to take them on.....but I guess thats more of just wanting to compete.

I have a snapped quite a few times. I've learned to control my anger by trying to think about the consequences of the situation. Anger is natural.....but you have to learn to control it to some degree....like punching walls....yelling....or whatever it takes to safely release that anger. I got into a fight with a really good friend a long time ago.....and things have never been the same. I don't ever wanna make a mistake like that again. Ya...I still get pissed...but I save the fighting for the ring/cage.

lol....by the way Tidus....^^^your sig is probably gonna make me piss myself when I finally see it on store Shelves...Good job!

[Lustre]

I sound so pathetic... :]
Not at all ;) At least you've recognised you had an anger problem and are trying to control it. My Dad won't even admit he has the problem -_-