Online relationships

[Lustre]

What's your take on them, have you been in one, and how far do you think they'll go?

I'm currently in one myself, and we're going really quite steady =p Been together a long time, seen each other only three times though ;_; Though we have been on vacation together, and he's coming over to see my for my birthday for a week. So in my opinion, we're going really strong! No idea how far we'll go though, but i'm content with how they are atm ^^

[Dream Machine]

I think for some people (especially younger people with certain restrictions) it can be kind of sweet. I only think its a problem if people start substituting it for offline relationships, I mean a big part of any relationship is the physical side (and no, I don't just mean sex).

In your case it seems more like you met online and its slowly developing into an offline relationship sort of dealy. Good luck to you :nod:

[IBeatMyMeat]

It all depends on the people that are involved in the relationship. I've known alot of people that are in online relationships, mostly due to the fact that I've played/play alot of MMOs, where you see them sprout up and disappear just as quickly as the temperature drops 1degree. However some of them do last, when they are a mix of offline and online. Either meeting up wherever, or talking via phone when not online. And then also the ones that last are also probably helped a little when they come from MMOs i suppose. It's a way to still "do things" and let the relationship grow. xD But that's just how I see it from the MMO side of things. Don't really know many people otherwise that end up in online relationships. Overall though they are just like normal relationships, in the sense that you have to have trust loyalty, so on so forth to make the relationship work. If not more so.

[Gaia]

In my opinion there are two types of online relationships that I like and don't like. The first- the type when you're just chatting with the person online and say that you are dating but you never connect on a physical level. For me I think this is bad because you don't know what the person looks like (they can send you a picture or whatever but how can you be sure that's their actual picture?) And the trust factor comes into this as well. How are you sure they're telling the truth about their age, sex, or...life basically. Sure you can set up a place to meet them but what if they turn out to be the opposite of what you are attracted to or a psycho...or worse- a sexual predater:ohmy: Those types of relationships I think don't last too long because they're not really serious...all you are doing is talking to the person but you can't see them in person; its just cyber space or whatever.

Anyways the second that I think is good is the online relationship that you have with your boyfriend, Lustre^_^. You met online but at least you've got to see him in person more then once and your not only connecting with him mentally but physically as well (And I don't mean sex, it doesn't have to be only that:rolleyes:).
The type of online relationships that blossom into real-life relationships are good. That's the point I'm basically trying to make in this long post:).

Your relationship seems to be going really well, I hope you'll be happy with him for a long time:wub:

-Gaia

[IBeatMyMeat]

*gasp!* theres something other than sex!?!?! nowai you lie.....*total sarcasm in case if it isnt apparent....*

[Kaiwa]

I've "nearly" been in an online relationship.. I was webmaster of a website which grew immensly so i needed new crew, and got myself a few moderators etc etc.. We did a crew meeting for fun and that is when i actually realised that my female moderator was really attractive and friendly! The only problem was that i was really good friends with her aswell... DRAMA!

[pupucachi]

I dont really believe in this kind of relationship. It happened to my friend. She met a guy on Yahoo. They saw each other's pics, said that they were in love. A month later, after the first date, they broke up. She told me that he wasnt the one she knew and had nothing special. Now she is still dating with a pretty boy (Yahoo, again). But I think it's not gonna work XD.
But your story is different. It depends on you and your boyfriend. It's great if you two get along with each other. My friend is not that lucky. So good luck! :)

[Lustre]

Yeah, I can't say i've had friends who've been in failed online relationships - when they meet with the guy/girl and realise they weren't what they expected. Everyone i've known has been in a steady online relationship. Granted i've also heard horrible tales. People cheating and sleeping with others, knowing that their other online boyfriend will never find out. I've had friends played online, being told they're loved and then they discover that they're expecting a kid from someone else. There ARE asses out there online, who just wanna have fun with someone's delicate heart... I guess I was lucky with the guy I found XD

As for this physical business, I guess it's a good thing that you're forced to get to know the person's mentality before you meet them. You learn to like/love them for who they are and not just their appearance. Before I met my bf for the first time, i'd seen him on webcam etc. yes, but that's still nothing to seeing them in real life. You don't know how tall they are, and webcam can cover up a lot of flaws because of low quality. I guess it makes the relationship deeper, and longer lasting as you're not just drawn to their appearance. Heck, me and my bf know each other so well, we end up saying things at the same time when we're micing XD and we always seem to know what the other is thinking.

Alot more trust is required yes, as if he goes out, I have to believe that he's telling me the truth and isn't going to see another girl. It can be hard at times, but in the end - again - I believe it makes the relationship stronger.

[Jhaxe]

It all depends on the person. There are people who get into online relationships and really love each other, then there are people who aren't actually serious and think online relationships are just fake and that they can have fun with it, etc. Sometimes it works, some it doesn't, and sometimes online people are just jerks.

[Bun]

I can't even handle a relationship in person much less with someone I've never seen face to face.

Online relationships are pointless if you're someone like me. Bein' friends is okay, but anything more is kinda ridiculous. Unless you're really into that crap and want to believe the person on the other end of the computer is actually who they say they are; not to mention the many other consequences of having a relationship over a computer screen.

It just ain't my thang.

[VeraAlexander]

I think it can be a good thing like Gaia said it really just depends, i don't know i can't really add anymore than what everyone else has said. Yours sounds like the good kind though.

[Pyramid Head]

I met all my girlfriends online until earlier this year. I don't drink and I hate bars, so that wasn't really an option of where to go to meet girls. Plus, bar-hopping girls are really not my type anyway.

I think online dating is awesome. You just scroll through the profiles until someone is attractive enough to catch your eye "No, no, no, no, no, YES!" Then you talk to that person and see if their personality is as good as his/her looks. If it is, you set up a date and take from there. Easy. However, I met the girl that I'm going to end up marrying (my current girlfriend) at my old job; not online. BUT we really got to know each other through email first, so that was definitely similar to doing the whole online thing.

I think there's a lot less pressure when you're getting to know someone online, rather than in person. It's definitely a less stressful situation than walking up to some girl and saying "Hey, how YOU doin'" or some other lame pick-up line.

[Stryke]

Online realationships ... Baad experience .... I had one .. She / He send me pics of his girlfriend and acted like her, so I thought he is her. .... we were sending SMS and lots of other thing you know :D I didnt take this too serious but it was destructable when I found out what going on and heared that "she" is a he and made a joke on me... ... that was.. the last time I had such an realationship ..

[olorin818]

My friend went into this kind of relationship, she start to chating with some boy on some online chat, and they slowly get closer and closer, and then they decide to meet, their first meeting was their last meeting, they never meet again , I know she wont it to meet him againg, but I guess this guy didnt like that much, so I guess it depend of your exception perhaps if you dont treat this too seroiusly and more like a funnu exp then who knows you may mett someone nice, but if you excpet too much then you may exp a big dissapoitment. But I dont think if this kind of relationship are impssible to exsist, my cousine meet her boyfriend via some online love agency or whatever, and they both saying that at first none of them treat that seroiusly, they meet, just to know each other, and it turn that they are planning to married now. So I guess it is possible and there is nothing wrong about that. People react strangle when they hear about online realtionship because it is something new, and its normal to afraid new things, bu since we have 21 centuary I believe soon lots of poepole will connect each other via interenet...

[monkeyJ]

Personally I think it dissolves into whether or not you really know you you're dating. A lot of problems people run into when they date online is either making up stuff about themselves or typing nothing like they would act around other people. Although, after having a pretty successful relationship, it can work if you're dead honest but meeting the other one here and there really really helps.

[Astraia]

maybe it depends on how the affected party deals with the relationship. others take it seriously while others don't.

[rikaivera]

i would never...wut if its an old wrinkly man! yuck!

[topgunffx]

i would never...wut if its an old wrinkly man! yuck!

i wouldn't be in one either just fur this same fact, and i am a male lol!!

[Neal]

i would never...wut if its an old wrinkly man! yuck!
Then... you don't go out with an wrinkly old man. Don't listen to the propaganda that the media tells you, not everyone that has an MSN is a paedo. They're more likely a 14 year old girl looking for fit boiz to webcam wiv.

[SquallEX]

It is not safe to start a online relationship.It is fun thou...

[Kätharina]

I wouldn't date online personally, neither would i meet up with them.
Don't want to get raped in the ass. :cathryn:

[Neal]

Didn't know e-dating you get you ass raped...

Where can I start one of these online relationships? :wtf:

[Kätharina]

match.com have good ratings for ass rape. :aldo:

[aya_light]

err...its depend though... its hard if we gt online relationship..dunno wats da truth and wats da lies..aaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrgh....dis is make me insane!!! >=3