Boys and Girls...

[Élan]

What do you find attractive in a partner? I've been thinking about this lately, because there are so many different people out there who are attracted to different things in a person! Basically, I just want to know what kind of person you are and what you're attracted to!

I'll go first! ^_^ I'm not very extroverted, but I try to be kind and helpful to others. Because of my age, I'm still a bit naive about certain things, but I'm a very attentive person who loves to analyze. I'm VERY picky when it comes to dating, but it's only about internal qualities. If he has a good heart and good morals, then appearances don't really matter. There still has to be some kind of physical attraction though...

[Devious]

What IS your age? Your profile doesn't say.

I never really thought about it that mucb but I suppose I like asian girls. Cuz I'm like, asian. :huh: But that's not really something you can control, huh? I suppose I have a pretty broad taste, but I really, really don't like obnoxious or over-confident girls or girls that wear excessive makeup/perfume. I hate walking down the hallway smelling vanilla and not knowing where it's coming from.

[Cloud3x]

attractive huh? probably her voice :d but dont get me wrong here. its not like i only like singers, its just that i like girls who can sing.

her personality is also important. then again im not that picky when it comes to girls...
appereance, well as long as i think she looks good i dont care what the rest of the world thinks. besides if she got a good heart, that will definitely make her look more beautiful ^^

[Élan]

What IS your age? Your profile doesn't say.

Well...I'm still in high school, so you can get a good range from that. I won't say it only because it's more fun if other people guess. I don't exactly act my age though...

[Cloud3x]

Well...I'm still in high school, so you can get a good range from that. I won't say it only because it's more fun if other people guess. I don't exactly act my age though...

lemme guess...16 ? :o

[Devious]

Well...I'm still in high school, so you can get a good range from that. I won't say it only because it's more fun if other people guess. I don't exactly act my age though...
High School is anywhere from 14-17. >_<

Judging by the picture you posted but is somehow gone I'm guessing... 15?

[Kitmitsu]

See now you've posted what you want they'll stalk you.

[Élan]

Well...I was 13 as a freshman. But I AM somewhere between 14 and 17. And the picture...I deleted it! How do you even remember? But we're straying away from the question I first asked!!>_< My age isn't that important...

[Allen Walker]

They have to be attractive in order for me to pay attention to them.

[Elyse]

Well, I'd be a liar if I said looks didn't play an important role. For me personally, what attracted me to my boyfriend was we were friends first for a very long time and we shared the same interests. He stated himself that he's never had a girlfriend that plays video games lol. I kind of look for a guy with a good sense of humor that has morals, a good head on their shoulders and can hold a decent intellectual conversation. Having common interests is always a plus because I love sharing things with other people and sharing hobbies/interests only makes a relationship that much stronger.

[Devious]

They have to be attractive in order for me to pay attention to them.
Yeah, but sometimes too much attention isn't a good thing, though I admit physical appearance is important, and if you say otherwise you're either lying or asexual.

[AT23]

Let's keep each other's ages out of this discussion, it matters not. Although my personal preference would be to date someone within a 10 year range difference. I have friends that have partners that are older/younger than them by a decade or two, but they really love each other and they're over 18 so whatever floats their boat.

Let's see... I am very picky but also not picky at the same time... I think it's not being picky out of my picky choices. I actually tend to stay away from asian girls, especially the ones here in the U.S. either act too americanized, white, or black. I dislike asian girls like that, or any races that try to act white or black except for the original races. It probably also has to do with the fact that my childhood was filled with ridiculing from other asian races such as Chinese and Korean people because I looked/acted Japanese. Ironically with the Chinese people, I do carry 1/4 Chinese blood in me as I am a mix. But I do find some asian girls attractive, although appearance-wise these girls are mostly found in asia, but have very nice engrish. So personality and compatibility-wise, I would have to say even those asian girls wouldn't work out with me anyways.

I guess some people look for opposites, or look outside of their own race. I do the same, I actually prefer european girls or girls from the south with their adorable southern drawls. No, I'm not talking about hicks, if you've actually been to the south you'd find some really cute girls there. They usually know how to party too.

Their smile has to be amazing, amazing enough to melt my heart and fall in love with them again and again every time I see it. I would want someone who is fit and toned, although I guess some chubbiness couldn't hurt. The reason why I would want someone who is physically attractive is because people who exercise and look good most likely means they actually care about their bodies and want to be healthy. To me, that is sexy, as I don't think I'd be attracted to anyone who doesn't respect their body or take the time to at least dress presentably to special occasions and events. I curse the artistic side of me, although looks shouldn't have a huge role in our world it does, and some kind of presentable visual is needed.

I like someone who is optimistic, and easy going. This includes being able to smile/laugh (and hopefully they do have a nice voice), but also being able to make others smile/laugh. They are like me in the sense that they don't judge people completely by appearance, and know when the time is right for playing or for being serious. Not being clingy also helps too. Hmmm... patience is a good virtue... Let's see, yes, I am very picky actually, they need to be able to at least communicate with me and hold interesting conversations sometimes, love reading, playing games (board or video/pc games), going out for a drive, be knowledgable or interested in something. They can be passionate about something, but not obsessive, lord knows how many of those I've had to deal with and it's unpleasant. Oh, and they can't be liars, maybe I'll allow small white lies but that's about it. Hmm... they have to like animals or be able to tolerate them.

Yep, I'm picky, but I'm not going to complain since I got a gf currently anyways.

[Bun]

I think one of the most important aspects I look for is someone who can make me laugh to the point where I start crying, every time I see them. Not just having a bit of a sense of humor here and there and then it gets boring after a while, but they can really get to me in a good way. My life is very based on humor and I just love to laugh, it's an amazing feeling, and it's even better when someone can make my stomach hurt from laughing too hard.

A few must-haves are common sense, directness, honesty, truthworthiness and persistence. I'm a stubborn, bullheaded, way-too-independent-for-my-own-good kinda girl, and sometimes it can come off rather emotionless and downright rude. But someone who I can say I actually want to spend my time with, as well as share that private side, is definitely what I want.

[Cactus Girl]

I think the most important thing for me in a boy is that he is someone I feel comfortable being me around. That sounds stupid, probably. I'm not quite sure how to explain it, but I've always felt a little different. I listen to "weird" music that people make fun of when they hear, so I just listen to it in the solitude of my car or apartment, and turn it off really fast if I have a friend get in the car with me to go to lunch or something. I just don't want to listen to complaining about how strange it is just because it's not something you could hear on the radio. That's just one example. I won't go on and on, but there's a lot of things I kind of hide from everyone else because I don't want people to give me crap about it. I just want to be me. So when I am with a guy who I feel I don't have to hide that from, well, that's someone really special to me.

[Thimien]

I think the most important thing for me in a boy is that he is someone I feel comfortable being me around. That sounds stupid, probably. I'm not quite sure how to explain it, but I've always felt a little different. I listen to "weird" music that people make fun of when they hear, so I just listen to it in the solitude of my car or apartment, and turn it off really fast if I have a friend get in the car with me to go to lunch or something. I just don't want to listen to complaining about how strange it is just because it's not something you could hear on the radio. That's just one example. I won't go on and on, but there's a lot of things I kind of hide from everyone else because I don't want people to give me crap about it. I just want to be me. So when I am with a guy who I feel I don't have to hide that from, well, that's someone really special to me.


I'm thinking you and me have something in comun.
I have a GF right now, very happy with her, living together and all, but i had way to many girls lol meaning i have no clue what i like, plus its hard to find someone that likes me for what i am.
But i can emphasise with you on the music, and alot of other things to :)
If you are worryed, then dont... you are way more prettyer than me lol youl have men at your feet all the time if you want to, and have all the time in the world to make a choice, so youl get your man :)

Damn i sound so cheesee

[SirBaron]

Anyone who is down to earth, has red hair, good physique, aestethic interests, who doesn't drink, smoke, use snuff (which is common in Sweden) or use any other kind of harmful substances, who respects themselves and can respect me and the fact that i'm a writer.

Yes, i am picky.

[Patsie]

@Dann - Tell me your age, ill so stalk you :aldo:

Personality, must be easy going, easy to talk to, not over emotional, someone i can relate to, likes what i like but has different views and opinions about it, can keep a conversation going not just me asking questions because i would feel like im just bothering them by asking too much questions.

How the person dresses? Jeans and a slight open polo, my jaw drops :aldo:

Size matters for me. If he's overweight or extremely thin then...yea. What I like in my type of looks in a guy. Hair and eyes. My most loved hair...sexy style :aldo:, eyes, something light 'cause it's interesting to look at.

I'm reeled in to guys that looks dopey and act dopey XD
I would not like them in more than friends way but as a friend i'm intrigued to be their friend. Probably because i can tease them and they wont do anything about it but be liked "aw...what?" XD

I also hate deodorant, i have sneeze all the time when im in a room with someone that has one on and i basically cant stand it anyway. Yea sure it covers up your stink, but please that's why there's dry roll ons and shower. I also want the guy clean.

[estella]

First off, I prefer Asian boys over European ones - the latter always become more like a "buddy" to me. Yeah. </racism> The only exceptions being: Cloud, Tidus & Prince.
I'm all for flaky hair :aldo: and by that I don't mean Cloud or Prince hair, just the normal, longer-ish type but the color doesn't matter at all.
Their appearances don't really matter, well to the extent that they don't look like trolls or are really fat. (Sorry for being mean) I mean, while hot guys generally make me swoon, I can end up liking, (though not loving) guys who are more or less average looking.
I WOULD prefer them to be smart, lol but the shame is hot guys generally are jocks who suck at schoolwork. The dilemma is that, while I prefer to date an Asian guy, I would like them to speak good english.
Quite the contrary to what Callie said, I end up being really tensed up when someone I like is around, which explains why my previous relationship thingy failed. =( BUT I STILL REALLY LIKE HIM. </3 I have to be in a dark room with whoever he is, to talk normally @_@

Dresscode! Irrelevant, but I don't want a shirt-and-tie style and nothing tight on guys please :aldo:

And Pwattie, colons are okaaaaaay <3 it's way better than smelling their armpits!

[Cloud3x]

Anyone who is down to earth, has red hair, good physique, aestethic interests, who doesn't drink, smoke, use snuff (which is common in Sweden) or use any other kind of harmful substances, who respects themselves and can respect me and the fact that i'm a writer.

Yes, i am picky.

lol, then im also quite picky then. since i also live in swed :lol:

[Cathryn]

I'm relativly picky when it involves the opposite sex. :aldo: (srsly, I'm not that much of a slapper neal :cathryn:)

I completely prefer Asian men, they just seem the complete opposite to the guys around my area, as in they arn't dickheaded and have faces which look like chucky and have an extremely shitty sense of humor.
I'm usually attracted to eyes and personality first, if I'm able to sit down with a guy and just talk about anything and have a laugh its brilliant, considering i usually like conservative guys compared to the 'bad boiz' WHO I FIND UTTERLY IRRITATING. :wtf:
I do like good looking guys, but others who are average are sometimes better to be with.
But still, half naked men with brilliant bodys. :aldo: I love them. LOL

[Cathryn]

I'm relativly picky when it involves the opposite sex. :aldo: (srsly, I'm not that much of a slapper neal :cathryn:)

I completely prefer Asian men, they just seem the complete opposite to the guys around my area, as in they arn't dickheaded and have faces which look like chucky and have an extremely shitty sense of humor.
I'm usually attracted to eyes and personality first, if I'm able to sit down with a guy and just talk about anything and have a laugh its brilliant, considering i usually like conservative guys compared to the 'bad boiz' WHO I FIND UTTERLY IRRITATING. :wtf:
I do like good looking guys, but others who are average are sometimes better to be with.
But still, half naked men with brilliant bodys. :aldo: I love them. LOL

[Élan]

I guess looks play a big part in attraction... It also seems that some of you prefer Asian girls/boys. Well, I have a little crush on Shugo Oshinari! He's a Japanese actor...and very cute!

http://i76.photobucket.com/albums/j5/Hana_Aoi/Shugo%20Oshinari/tekening0014.jpg


Their smile has to be amazing, amazing enough to melt my heart and fall in love with them again and again every time I see it.


Aww...that's so cute! There's a boy at school who actually has that effect on me...


@Dann - Tell me your age, ill so stalk you :aldo:


:huh:

[Kitmitsu]

Well, I have a little crush on Shugo Oshinari!

The guy who plays Takuma in Battle Royale 2? :o I don't remember how he died now >_<.

*Off Topic*

[Élan]

The guy who plays Takuma in Battle Royale 2? :o I don't remember how he died now >_<.

*Off Topic*

Yeah!! I haven't seen the movie, but I've heard so much about it! He was in All About Lily Chou Chou, too!

*Off Topic Too!*

[Dark Slayer]

For me I'd go for a girl who is understanding and likes me for who I am. Someone who cares about what you are doing, with a good personality, a sense of humor and makes your day. Well I think I found someone like that. We're only close friends and we have some things in common. I never even expected during when we met that we'll be this close. It just came in. Only that she is after this lead singer. So all I do is to remind of her of that singer then she'll go crazy. She helps me a lot even though we don't see each other often. Of all the girls I met, she is more of the ideal girl I like.

[Strifer]

I am hopeless. I wish girls like Yuna - Aeris - Tifa - Garnet - Rinoa. Hmmm, girls with tha look doesn't exist. :(

[Devious]

I am hopeless. I wish girls like Yuna - Aeris - Tifa - Garnet - Rinoa. Hmmm, girls with tha look doesn't exist. :(
Yeah they do. There's this incredibly cute girl in my grade that looks like a goddess. She's also asian. I'm not really interested however, I just think she looks really cute. Not hot, just cute.

[Strifer]

Not excatly but maybe some similiar yes.

[Whiplash]

Not excatly but maybe some similiar yes.

Well one group has vaginas the other group has pixels so I guess you're right.

[Kitmitsu]

Well one group has vaginas the other group has pixels so I guess you're right.

But what pixels!

No srsly. Attraction to video game characters isn't gonna help in finding a relationship...

[Strifer]

You say the truth Kitmitsu. I sure will find one that I like someday.

[AT23]

No, it won't help in finding a relationship... however it doesn't stop it either. We all have fictional characters or celebrities we like, if some girl likes Johnny Depp or a guy likes Jessica Alba there's nothing really a partner can do about that, it's preference.

[Jive Turkey]

Yes because it's like...if your wanted to be with those people then they wouldnt be with you...it's like: I'm the best you can do, and you're the best I can do

[AT23]

I always go for the best girls or what guys like me would normally consider "out of league". Because of that, I've had girls who were taller than me (6 ft tall, seriously) and many would consider me and the girls I've dated the beauty and the geek/beast/insertwhateverstereotypeshere. I never settle for less, I always go for equal if not better to challenge myself. But at the very least, if I were to end up with someone I hope I'm comfortable around them and we can make each other smile and laugh.

[Jive Turkey]

Well in any case the girl I would like is: Asian :wub: , easy to talk to not whiny or needy, great sense of humor, can think for herself, smart and nice <33

[AT23]

Estella is pretty cute and might be a good match for you then :P

[Jive Turkey]

But she's straight I think ; ;
and still underage and sooo far away....

[N O C T E]

Hmmm. I like the look of the the so called Emo chicks here lately. :aldo:

Any chick who wears Chucks over anything else is just incredible. Black hair is good, or brown, I hate blondes. :/

Mhmmm. Personality, I like the opposite of mine. Always happy, "bubbly", and spontaneous. I guess I figure it will even out. B/c I do not act in any way at all like that. XD

And I like them to be average looking. I am not going to date a chick who looks like a toothpick or looks like a giant apple either.

I am very picky and it is hard to describe anyway. :/

Blue eyes are awesome too btw. :aldo:

EDIT: I agree w/Rev about the perfume, drives me fucking crazy when that happens. And I also agree with Callie about them not thinking your tastes are strange and how you need to feel comfortable.

Today, I think its quite rare to find someone who does not subscribe to whatever new thing is supposedly "cool" to be. :/

[Élan]

Well...don't you guys think it's possible to REALLY like someone who doesn't meet your standards at all? Like, let's say you've strictly dated people with a specific look or a specific race and then you find yourself falling for someone completely different. Would you ever date someone that you like but are uncomfortable being seen with?

[AT23]

Well...don't you guys think it's possible to REALLY like someone who doesn't meet your standards at all? Like, let's say you've strictly dated people with a specific look or a specific race and then you find yourself falling for someone completely different. Would you ever date someone that you like but are uncomfortable being seen with?

To answer your question: Anything is possible, and yes maybe I, too, one day will fall in love with someone who I don't like at first glance. That's life for you. Until then, I hang out and date with who I want to~.

PS: There really should be no person you are uncomfortable to be seen with, especially if you really love them. It's absurd to "love" someone but be embarassed or be uncomfortable to be seen with. That's not love, that's called "conditional, and really selfish and insecure love". I've read other people's posts and I guess there was one that said they had to change something about them or whatever they liked immediately in the presence of their "friends". I pity these people, because not only are they insecure, but they have to appease to their friends with what they think is normal or like. If they're really your friends or love you, they will accept you for who you are and what kinda music you like and what you watch, etc. Anyone else are fakes, don't give into other people's need and put up a front, because then you ultimately hurt yourself for not being the true you. You don't have to like everything about them, but at least be accepting and understanding, because face it, that's what individuality and being different is all about. You can't win them all, we don't live in a fair world, but you can at least choose what you want in some cases.

[Devious]

Well in any case the girl I would like is: Asian :wub: , easy to talk to not whiny or needy, great sense of humor, can think for herself, smart and nice <33
But she doesn't have to be a lesbian. :aldo:

No, it won't help in finding a relationship... however it doesn't stop it either. We all have fictional characters or celebrities we like, if some girl likes Johnny Depp or a guy likes Jessica Alba there's nothing really a partner can do about that, it's preference.
Fictional videogame characters have nothing do with celebrities. Celebrities actually EXIST for one and there's actually a chance you can meet, possible speak to, but most likely not date one.

[Élan]

PS: There really should be no person you are uncomfortable to be seen with, especially if you really love them. It's absurd to "love" someone but be embarassed or be uncomfortable to be seen with. That's not love, that's called "conditional, and really selfish and insecure love". I've read other people's posts and I guess there was one that said they had to change something about them or whatever they liked immediately in the presence of their "friends". I pity these people, because not only are they insecure, but they have to appease to their friends with what they think is normal or like. If they're really your friends or love you, they will accept you for who you are and what kinda music you like and what you watch, etc. Anyone else are fakes, don't give into other people's need and put up a front, because then you ultimately hurt yourself for not being the true you. You don't have to like everything about them, but at least be accepting and understanding, because face it, that's what individuality and being different is all about. You can't win them all, we don't live in a fair world, but you can at least choose what you want in some cases.

That's very true. I've met many people who have been through times where he/she didn't fit in with anyone at all. I've been one of those people before, and it really does screw with your brain a bit. I've actually been dumped because I was too quiet. Luckily enough, I've finally found people I can be myself around, but that doesn't mean I don't have my moments. Whenever I'm not with my friends, I tend to keep to myself.

Getting back to the question I asked, I think you can love someone who you're uncomfortable being seen with. Wait...scratch that. It may not be love at first, but as you do start falling in love with him/her...then you won't even care who sees you together. So...you can date someone you're embarrassed to be with, but you can't love them.

[AT23]

Fictional videogame characters have nothing do with celebrities. Celebrities actually EXIST for one and there's actually a chance you can meet, possible speak to, but most likely not date one.

Well, I suppose you have what can be called an arguable point. However you didn't really strike me as the type to give a generalized and vague response to what I said. So let me try to explain what I want to shed a light on without me having to write a wall of text, because that gets old quick.

Since this seems to be a matter of existance, let me ask you: What is real? What really exists? What does existance mean to you? You need not answer, but if you get what I'm getting at, great. It's similar to the whole shakespearian quote and theme FFVersusXIII uses: "There is no right or wrong...". We, as human beings give meanings and existance to things. It is the conscious and sub-consciousness that makes this thing called "existance", well... exist... Hardy-har-har. From there, stems the study of the psyche as we all know to be psychology. I'm starting to go on a tangeant, so I'm going to ask if you like Crash Bandicoot. I mean, are you attracted to him? And if he "existed", and if, for some random example let's say you liked him, would you want to be with him? Let's say you did, the answer would most likely be yes in this given scenario.

Now, we all know what I said above is not true, and is *highly unlikely* of becoming a "reality". Nobody (that is human and is in their right mind) would want to marry and have children with Crash Bandicoot. But for your and many guy's sake, if let's say Yuna from Final Fantasy X/X-2 existed, and had the chance to date/marry/have kids with her, a lot of guys would take that chance. Even with celebrities, again, *although highly unlikely*, every guy but Brad Pitt at the current moment won't be with Angelina Jolie, ever. That is a fact. The common thing we got going here is that no matter how hard you try or look at it, you won't be with either Yuna or Angelina Jolie. Fictional or *real*, you still won't be with them. But here's where research and study of game characters along with extensive knowledge of character designs for game characters come in handy. Do you, no, wait, I know you've noticed some things that can be real, with both feelings or physical forms with some game characters. To make this vision easier, take Tekken for example. The Law character, one of them is pretty much Bruce Lee. There are other famous/movie star -derived characters in Tekken, but is not limited to Tekken. Do you see where I am going with this? Regardless of fiction or reality, whether it's Orlando Bloom as he is or Legolas from LotR, girls will think either is hot. They are hot. That's how most of us will compute and judge characters. A lot of the popular characters from games and movies have resemblance to celebrities and their qualities they possess, one of which is kind, physically attractive, etc. Why do you think Gackt posed to become Genesis for both the Dirge games and Crisis Core? It's a hand-in-hand thing. To indirectly quote an unnamed frequenter of this forum, she said in another thread that "she'd let the prince of versus xiii tap it." Now, not only has that re-confirmed for me at least that girls are horny and like good-looking people like guys do, it tells us that fictional or not, if they resemble something of a human and were to be "real" or "exist", which are *highly unlikely* chances of it being like meeting a celeb or talking to one, then someone would definitely take the chance to be with them. The "realistic" question would be: Who wouldn't?

Three things I don't believe in: Never, Forever, and Impossible. The only time you'll see me use those words are for colloquial or exaggerating usage. So according to my philosophy, anything is possible, just with everything revolving around probability digits and the chaos theory, or rather discordia. A better term to capture this is saying things are "improbable" opposed to "impossible". The word is used so loosely and sparingly these days it's horrid. So as far as I'm concerned, it may not be now, but one day there might be some girl holding hands with Cloud Strife walking towards the movie theatre in hollywood.

To wrap this up in a nutshell, the moment you brought in the topic of "existance" as your reasoning and back up you had already proved that you did not comprehend what I was saying. To put a cap on existance and reality based on the discussion at hand: These characters, although not in the form of thinking, talking, breathing, walking "normal" people like we are, exist. Otherwise there would not be a forum like this, there would not be such a thing as the Final Fantasy series and we may as well just not have this conversation and to not be blessed or cursed by this "existance" called entertainment.

Ugh, I just wrote a wall-o'-text again... >_<

[Devious]

Ugh jeez, don't bring philosophy into this. You can't win in a argument where you think vg characters "exist" on the same level as Orlando Bloom. No matter how you look at it, actors physically exist. You can see them, you can feel them, hell you can even taste and smell them. They respond to your actions. They exist. You can't smell, feel, or taste Yuna, can you? And no matter how hard you scream your feelings at her she'll never turn around and say "I LOVE YOU TOO AT23!"

Who says it's impossible that anyone but Brad Pitt will even be with Angelina Jolie lol? You never know. It's not a FACT that I won't be with her in like 20 years. You can't see the future can you? It's like saying it's a FACT that I won't buy cabbage on fridays. Ever.

The people that actors play aren't real. Even though you do see Legolas on a screen, you can't actually meet him. If you decide to meet Orlando Bloom dressed as Legolas, you're still meeting Orlando Bloom, albeit a pointy earred weird-talking Orlando Bloom.

If I were to draw a picture of a gun and try to mug someone do you think it would work? No. Because it's not a gun, it's a picture of a gun, and although the paper and ink are real the picture of the gun is just an idea, and doesn't physically exist.

[Strifer]

That's too bad. Wish that Yuna exist. Much better than these girls on the world: Amgelina Joile - Jessica Alba and so on.

[AT23]

'Ugh jeez, don't bring philosophy into this. You can't win in a argument where you think vg characters "exist" on the same level as Orlando Bloom. No matter how you look at it, actors physically exist. You can see them, you can feel them, hell you can even taste and smell them. They respond to your actions. They exist. You can't smell, feel, or taste Yuna, can you? And no matter how hard you scream your feelings at her she'll never turn around and say "I LOVE YOU TOO AT23!"'

*I just did. I brought my philsophy along with me, so does everyone else with them whether they openly announce it or not. Read your own writing, Legolas isn't going to turn around and say "I LOVE YOU TOO SMEAGOL!" You missed my entire point of people's views and psychology which determines what is real and exists.

'Who says it's impossible that anyone but Brad Pitt will even be with Angelina Jolie lol? You never know. It's not a FACT that I won't be with her in like 20 years. You can't see the future can you? It's like saying it's a FACT that I won't buy cabbage on fridays. Ever.'

*They're getting married, which is usually a sign that those two will be commited to each other. You might want to go look up what marriage is in a dictionary if you must. The human lifespan is limited and rather short in my opinion, there may be a probability that Brad Pitt may move onto another woman like he screwed over Jennifer Aniston. But in 20 years, Jolie's children will be grown up, she will be 50 years old. Do you really want to be with someone that is 2 times as old as you are, and has a totally different perception and lifestyle than you do? Most likely not. This is reality, no joe schmoe is going to be with her, she will not be seen with such a person, and normal guys like us will have a very unlikely chance of getting to be with her. It is probability playing at it's finest and almost any person with common sense can tell it sides more towards becoming a fact. Asides from that, I can't tell the future but I can certainly deduct and calculate the likely probability of some things happening. You can do this too, and you can't tell the future yourself, so stop bringing up something that doesn't even help you when whatever you want to apply towards me equally applies to you. It doesn't help your argument or place you in a higher place than I. I'm not even talking about cabbages anyways, I was talking about people liking characters or people that they cannot be with, and somewhere along the road you interjected with differenciating between fictional and non-fictional characters. I've seen girl's rooms of Johnny Depp shrines, as well as a Cloud Strife shrine, this hardly should affect what a guy/girl likes in a partner, so what is your point?

'The people that actors play aren't real. Even though you do see Legolas on a screen, you can't actually meet him. If you decide to meet Orlando Bloom dressed as Legolas, you're still meeting Orlando Bloom, albeit a pointy earred weird-talking Orlando Bloom.'

*Thank you for the obvious, but please, try telling that to someone who has a hard time distinguishing fantasy and reality. Because these people do exist where their psyche creates things that aren't real, yet makes them real and exist so to speak. If I couldn't distinguish the difference between real and fictional characters, my initial post would have been: I love Yuna, we're getting married, and then the we can let the bashing of the poor disillusioned boy commence.

If I were to draw a picture of a gun and try to mug someone do you think it would work? No. Because it's not a gun, it's a picture of a gun, and although the paper and ink are real the picture of the gun is just an idea, and doesn't physically exist.

*Again, wth is up with these inanimate objects being thrusted into the discussion, I am talking about people and fictional creations that involve resemblences to people here, what is so hard about that to understand? Is it cabbages and paper gun day today? If it is I surely missed the memo for this holiday and feel bloody left out. And actually, give my friend a stack of 8.5' x 11' paper and he'll make you a fully operational replica copy of a gun purely made out paper that can shoot out balled up paper or paper bullets. If you give my friend a whole bunch of paper, he'll make you a model of a car with convincing details and interior designs. He can also probably make a functional car out of cardboard and some tin cans amongst other small parts if you let him. There are some amazing people out there that can make convincing and great replicas of objects out of paper.

If I have anything left to say about this whole thing, it'd be listed as:

1) If people are still intent on discussing this issue with fictional and non-fictional characters and their existance, I'll gladly create a separate thread as this is derailing the original topic of the OP.

2) I, for the most part hate talking to a lot of people ranging from the school levels of middle school to college/pre-grad, or ages 12-24 as they usually have a mentality of thinking they're smart or could come up with a good arguement because they've gotten a few A+s in their AP classes. I have better conversations with my 10 year old nephew talking about microbiology.

3) I like girls who can appreciate art and can cook.

[Devious]

'Ugh jeez, don't bring philosophy into this. You can't win in a argument where you think vg characters "exist" on the same level as Orlando Bloom. No matter how you look at it, actors physically exist. You can see them, you can feel them, hell you can even taste and smell them. They respond to your actions. They exist. You can't smell, feel, or taste Yuna, can you? And no matter how hard you scream your feelings at her she'll never turn around and say "I LOVE YOU TOO AT23!"'

*I just did. I brought my philsophy along with me, so does everyone else with them whether they openly announce it or not. Read your own writing, Legolas isn't going to turn around and say "I LOVE YOU TOO SMEAGOL!" You missed my entire point of people's views and psychology which determines what is real and exists.

'Who says it's impossible that anyone but Brad Pitt will even be with Angelina Jolie lol? You never know. It's not a FACT that I won't be with her in like 20 years. You can't see the future can you? It's like saying it's a FACT that I won't buy cabbage on fridays. Ever.'

*They're getting married, which is usually a sign that those two will be commited to each other. You might want to go look up what marriage is in a dictionary if you must. The human lifespan is limited and rather short in my opinion, there may be a probability that Brad Pitt may move onto another woman like he screwed over Jennifer Aniston. But in 20 years, Jolie's children will be grown up, she will be 50 years old. Do you really want to be with someone that is 2 times as old as you are, and has a totally different perception and lifestyle than you do? Most likely not. This is reality, no joe schmoe is going to be with her, she will not be seen with such a person, and normal guys like us will have a very unlikely chance of getting to be with her. It is probability playing at it's finest and almost any person with common sense can tell it sides more towards becoming a fact. Asides from that, I can't tell the future but I can certainly deduct and calculate the likely probability of some things happening. You can do this too, and you can't tell the future yourself, so stop bringing up something that doesn't even help you when whatever you want to apply towards me equally applies to you. It doesn't help your argument or place you in a higher place than I. I'm not even talking about cabbages anyways, I was talking about people liking characters or people that they cannot be with, and somewhere along the road you interjected with differenciating between fictional and non-fictional characters. I've seen girl's rooms of Johnny Depp shrines, as well as a Cloud Strife shrine, this hardly should affect what a guy/girl likes in a partner, so what is your point?

'The people that actors play aren't real. Even though you do see Legolas on a screen, you can't actually meet him. If you decide to meet Orlando Bloom dressed as Legolas, you're still meeting Orlando Bloom, albeit a pointy earred weird-talking Orlando Bloom.'

*Thank you for the obvious, but please, try telling that to someone who has a hard time distinguishing fantasy and reality. Because these people do exist where their psyche creates things that aren't real, yet makes them real and exist so to speak. If I couldn't distinguish the difference between real and fictional characters, my initial post would have been: I love Yuna, we're getting married, and then the we can let the bashing of the poor disillusioned boy commence.

If I were to draw a picture of a gun and try to mug someone do you think it would work? No. Because it's not a gun, it's a picture of a gun, and although the paper and ink are real the picture of the gun is just an idea, and doesn't physically exist.

*Again, wth is up with these inanimate objects being thrusted into the discussion, I am talking about people and fictional creations that involve resemblences to people here, what is so hard about that to understand? Is it cabbages and paper gun day today? If it is I surely missed the memo for this holiday and feel bloody left out. And actually, give my friend a stack of 8.5' x 11' paper and he'll make you a fully operational replica copy of a gun purely made out paper that can shoot out balled up paper or paper bullets. If you give my friend a whole bunch of paper, he'll make you a model of a car with convincing details and interior designs. He can also probably make a functional car out of cardboard and some tin cans amongst other small parts if you let him. There are some amazing people out there that can make convincing and great replicas of objects out of paper.

If I have anything left to say about this whole thing, it'd be listed as:

1) If people are still intent on discussing this issue with fictional and non-fictional characters and their existance, I'll gladly create a separate thread as this is derailing the original topic of the OP.

2) I, for the most part hate talking to a lot of people ranging from the school levels of middle school to college/pre-grad, or ages 12-24 as they usually have a mentality of thinking they're smart or could come up with a good arguement because they've gotten a few A+s in their AP classes. I have better conversations with my 10 year old nephew talking about microbiology.

3) I like girls who can appreciate art and can cook.
Use quotes please. I don't even want to look at all that. So I'll just say one thing. VIDEO GAME CHARACTERS AREN'T REAL OKAY?

btw what does my age have to do with this? Not many people on this forum are over 24 years old, so tough.


...



And #3 is just stupid. What does that have to do with anything?


END OF DISCUSSION BACK TO GIRLS AND BOYS I LIKE GIRLS.

[BUTTCHEEKIES, OOH]

Well to help you out Rev, since you couldn't be arsed to read his otherwise interesting post, tl;dr:

I was talking about people liking characters or people that they cannot be with, and somewhere along the road you interjected with differenciating between fictional and non-fictional characters. I've seen girl's rooms of Johnny Depp shrines, as well as a Cloud Strife shrine, this hardly should affect what a guy/girl likes in a partner, so what is your point?I think that settles it. :)

As for me personally, I'm really not searching or interested in dating atm - but I think the most important thing they need to be able to give me is space. Lots of it. I'm not particularly interested in particular people, though I'm less fond of the cocky prats. P;

[Cactus Girl]

'Ugh jeez, don't bring philosophy into this. You can't win in a argument where you think vg characters "exist" on the same level as Orlando Bloom. No matter how you look at it, actors physically exist. You can see them, you can feel them, hell you can even taste and smell them. They respond to your actions. They exist. You can't smell, feel, or taste Yuna, can you? And no matter how hard you scream your feelings at her she'll never turn around and say "I LOVE YOU TOO AT23!"'

*I just did. I brought my philsophy along with me, so does everyone else with them whether they openly announce it or not. Read your own writing, Legolas isn't going to turn around and say "I LOVE YOU TOO SMEAGOL!" You missed my entire point of people's views and psychology which determines what is real and exists.

'Who says it's impossible that anyone but Brad Pitt will even be with Angelina Jolie lol? You never know. It's not a FACT that I won't be with her in like 20 years. You can't see the future can you? It's like saying it's a FACT that I won't buy cabbage on fridays. Ever.'

*They're getting married, which is usually a sign that those two will be commited to each other. You might want to go look up what marriage is in a dictionary if you must. The human lifespan is limited and rather short in my opinion, there may be a probability that Brad Pitt may move onto another woman like he screwed over Jennifer Aniston. But in 20 years, Jolie's children will be grown up, she will be 50 years old. Do you really want to be with someone that is 2 times as old as you are, and has a totally different perception and lifestyle than you do? Most likely not. This is reality, no joe schmoe is going to be with her, she will not be seen with such a person, and normal guys like us will have a very unlikely chance of getting to be with her. It is probability playing at it's finest and almost any person with common sense can tell it sides more towards becoming a fact. Asides from that, I can't tell the future but I can certainly deduct and calculate the likely probability of some things happening. You can do this too, and you can't tell the future yourself, so stop bringing up something that doesn't even help you when whatever you want to apply towards me equally applies to you. It doesn't help your argument or place you in a higher place than I. I'm not even talking about cabbages anyways, I was talking about people liking characters or people that they cannot be with, and somewhere along the road you interjected with differenciating between fictional and non-fictional characters. I've seen girl's rooms of Johnny Depp shrines, as well as a Cloud Strife shrine, this hardly should affect what a guy/girl likes in a partner, so what is your point?

'The people that actors play aren't real. Even though you do see Legolas on a screen, you can't actually meet him. If you decide to meet Orlando Bloom dressed as Legolas, you're still meeting Orlando Bloom, albeit a pointy earred weird-talking Orlando Bloom.'

*Thank you for the obvious, but please, try telling that to someone who has a hard time distinguishing fantasy and reality. Because these people do exist where their psyche creates things that aren't real, yet makes them real and exist so to speak. If I couldn't distinguish the difference between real and fictional characters, my initial post would have been: I love Yuna, we're getting married, and then the we can let the bashing of the poor disillusioned boy commence.

If I were to draw a picture of a gun and try to mug someone do you think it would work? No. Because it's not a gun, it's a picture of a gun, and although the paper and ink are real the picture of the gun is just an idea, and doesn't physically exist.

*Again, wth is up with these inanimate objects being thrusted into the discussion, I am talking about people and fictional creations that involve resemblences to people here, what is so hard about that to understand? Is it cabbages and paper gun day today? If it is I surely missed the memo for this holiday and feel bloody left out. And actually, give my friend a stack of 8.5' x 11' paper and he'll make you a fully operational replica copy of a gun purely made out paper that can shoot out balled up paper or paper bullets. If you give my friend a whole bunch of paper, he'll make you a model of a car with convincing details and interior designs. He can also probably make a functional car out of cardboard and some tin cans amongst other small parts if you let him. There are some amazing people out there that can make convincing and great replicas of objects out of paper.

If I have anything left to say about this whole thing, it'd be listed as:

1) If people are still intent on discussing this issue with fictional and non-fictional characters and their existance, I'll gladly create a separate thread as this is derailing the original topic of the OP.

2) I, for the most part hate talking to a lot of people ranging from the school levels of middle school to college/pre-grad, or ages 12-24 as they usually have a mentality of thinking they're smart or could come up with a good arguement because they've gotten a few A+s in their AP classes. I have better conversations with my 10 year old nephew talking about microbiology.

3) I like girls who can appreciate art and can cook.

I read the whole, er, "discussion" between you guys, and I'm still a little confused on what the disagreement is. But I think it is alright to have crushes on fictional characters the same way you might have a crush on a real person, celebrity or otherwise. I don't think it hurts anything. I think it's kind of like cosplay or writing fanfiction or even gaming...it's just a form of imaginative play, and I think we (people) need that even in our adolescence and adulthood. My boyfriend has crushes on video game girls, even though he doesn't think I know about it. ^_^ It doesn't bother me at all, though.

I guess if someone were SO obsessed with dating a fictional character that it made them unable to carry on a normal love life, that would be a problem, but I think that's probably rarely the case. Otherwise, I think fantasizing about characters is completely normal and healthy and all that jazz. Just my humble opinion.

[Misschoco]

You people and your philosophies (spelling failed<???) :aldo:

These are my personal preferences-emo hair ftw-seriously fucking hot&** please dont misunderstand me as loving dark dudes etc.Its just the hair.I'd hate a guy with traditional views on a lot of things (you get the idea).The worst I could meet is someone whose IQ seems non-existent i.e an idiot im picky when it comes to intelligence's. And any guy that wears chucks-ilu hot*

[Cheonsa.1004]

Oh~ This is such a good question. :o

I would most likely prefer asian. Cuz well, I am, but I guess
it's just because I'm more comfortable with them. :]
( I think it's funny when people try to tell different "asians" apart :P )

Describing my attitude briefly would be, lazy most of the time,
but loves to be active. I'd love to have a busy schedule one day. :/

I guess in the opposite, I'd be looking for...comfort.
If he looks cute to me, and he can make me laugh, I think
there's a chance. ^^
I'm not going to lie, physical attractness does count
for a lot of things. Some girls lie when they say, "Looks don't matter".
>3< PSH!!! Oh yeah, and active. :D
i like them active ^^ <--- har har har

[Jive Turkey]

Miss if looks matter even in thew slightest then you and I could never be
: |

[Cheonsa.1004]

Miss if looks matter even in thew slightest then you and I could never be
: |

O.o
say what now??
psh, -3- never said
i had considered of "being"
with anyone. :]

looks only matter so i'll
have something to look at when
i fake sex. xD
JK!!

[Tana]

The older I get the less shallow I appear to be when it comes to love. When I was younger I always used to fantasize about this perfect hot muscular blonde who would treat me perfectly (lol hay delusion). I used to think clod was like that. How silly I was.

I'm going to be 17 soon (like, Saturday soon) and my taste in men has changed for the better. I don't want them to just be this perfect badass who is somehow not shallow at the same time (come on, what are the chances of me meeting someone like that?) I've not lowered my expectations, I've just learned to be realistic. And there's nothing wrong with that. I like the idiots that can make me laugh and are dorky as fuck, even if they piss me off when they act like typical boiz. That's just the way it is. And really, sometimes you don't even expect that you're going to like a particular person, and it's a scary feeling. The chemistry just kicks in when you talk to them and stare them in the eyes and notice how beautiful their eyez are. fsdafsd. It is then that I realize just how much of a pussy I feel like. As long as they treat me with respect as a friend, take a genuine interest in what I have to say, and not be sexist towards me I'll <3 them. If you can hold a conversation with me then that's a BIG thing, because if you can't then I end up feeling awkward talking to you even if you're my so-called "friend". I can't stand people with the IQ size of a shoe. That usually means you're a close-minded conformist, too.

Fuck.

Being open-minded is everything.

.. but just like anyone there are some physical features that attract me more than others. Being taller than me is a plus; having to look down at my man is such a turn-off, I'm sorry.

[Élan]

The older I get the less shallow I appear to be when it comes to love. When I was younger I always used to fantasize about this perfect hot muscular blonde who would treat me perfectly (lol hay delusion). I used to think clod was like that. How silly I was.

I'm going to be 17 soon (like, Saturday soon) and my taste in men has changed for the better. I don't want them to just be this perfect badass who is somehow not shallow at the same time (come on, what are the chances of me meeting someone like that?) I've not lowered my expectations, I've just learned to be realistic. And there's nothing wrong with that. I like the idiots that can make me laugh and are dorky as fuck, even if they piss me off when they act like typical boiz. That's just the way it is. And really, sometimes you don't even expect that you're going to like a particular person, and it's a scary feeling. The chemistry just kicks in when you talk to them and stare them in the eyes and notice how beautiful their eyez are. fsdafsd. It is then that I realize just how much of a pussy I feel like. As long as they treat me with respect as a friend, take a genuine interest in what I have to say, and not be sexist towards me I'll <3 them. If you can hold a conversation with me then that's a BIG thing, because if you can't then I end up feeling awkward talking to you even if you're my so-called "friend". I can't stand people with the IQ size of a shoe. That usually means you're a close-minded conformist, too.

Fuck.

Being open-minded is everything.

.. but just like anyone there are some physical features that attract me more than others. Being taller than me is a plus; having to look down at my man is such a turn-off, I'm sorry.

I think this is a point a lot of people don't understand. A lot of people have their heads too far in the clouds when it comes to love. I'm a dreamer, but if you're not a realistic dreamer then those dreams will never come true. I'm all for finding that special someone, but you have to be realistic about what you want. It's impossible to find a perfect person, but you can find someone perfect for you. But, unless you're happily married, you can't expect to know what that "perfect" person is like. I know this thread is about what you look for in a partner, but I just hope that people out there realize that you can fall in love at the most unexpected times. Just because someone doesn't meet your expectations doesn't mean you should cast them away. But, depending on what kind of love you're looking for, those expectations can differ. But everyone should strive for fulfillment in their relationships; they should find someone that makes them happy. I think that's what matters the most. And happiness can come in all forms. Just find the kind that fits you!^_^

[Misschoco]

Miss if looks matter even in thew slightest then you and I could never be
: |
If this was in reply to me :cookie:.

I guess my description was short^.Personality is in fact the main thing which I base my preferences on.Im easily unflattered by certain personalities almost all.Worst of all boys with egos which they constantly need to feed..very off-putting.Maybe im being stereotypical but the 'bad ass' whatever male type-the girls who go after them are ditsy losers who seem to breed on popularity.

[Jive Turkey]

haha no it was to Cheonsa

You are put off by almost all personalities?

[Misschoco]

You are put off by almost all personalities?
Considering that most peoples personalities consist of egos,narcissists,arrogance,and pessimism then somewhat yes.

[Jive Turkey]

Ah I see what you mean

The typical human being

[AT23]

I am everything Choco hates then! *goes to sob in a corner* oh wellz! :cookie: